Shift perspective and strengthen the group
It’s human nature to get a little self-absorbed from time to time. We tend to see the world through our own lens, focused on our tasks and challenges.
I’ve noticed my own self-absorption, particularly during check-ins. While fumbling for words to describe how I’m feeling and listening to myself, I often realize I’m not as unique as I thought. Then, as I tune into others, I’m reminded that everyone has their own life, their own tasks, and their own joys and worries. It’s humbling—in a good way. It helps me connect with others on a deeply human level.
Almost every human interaction starts with some version of “How are you?”—a social lubricant that helps establish rapport.
Check-ins work the same way.
Here’s why they matter:
- Context matters: We gain insight into each other’s lives, which helps us understand and empathize better.
- Self-awareness: If I’m feeling exhausted or frustrated, sharing that openly helps me take responsibility for my energy, rather than letting negativity seep into the group.
- Caring connection: Check-ins create space for us to care about each other and our work. For instance, we might delay an agenda item if its main contributor is preoccupied with personal concerns.
- Psychological safety: When we’re more attuned to one another, meetings become more supportive and collaborative.
Are your check-ins too superficial?
You can use prompts to deepen the conversation. While I personally prefer open-ended prompts, some groups benefit from specific, directed ones that reveal fresh perspectives.
Even with themed prompts, I always leave space for people to share whatever is on their minds.
Are your check-ins too long?
Discuss this as a group. Make time in your agenda to align on how long check-ins should be and explore ways to start your meetings in a way that works for everyone